The
wounded “Inner Child.”
Each childhood
wound that we suffer, almost if not always, created a wounded “Inner
Child.”
The
wounded “Inner Child” is the egocentric, severed parts of me that
was hurt, terrified,
vulnerable and neglected and never allowed to express itself.
Every
time something happened to us, we split of energetically and disconnected from
the rest of ourselves. The severed part of us might contains certain qualities
like frankness, innocent, fearless, fun loving, etc. that after this incident,
we feel incomplete and miss these qualities in ourselves and end up spending our
lives searching for these qualities from outside of us.
The
wounded “Inner Children” came into our life because we were:
Forced
to adapt specific behaviors and views from our parents.
For
example: - It is quite prestigious to be a doctor, a lawyer or
an engineer.
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Real men don’t cry.
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Showing emotion is a sign of weakness.
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Assertiveness is not a good quality.
Asked
to live up to our parents’ expectations.
When
we suppress our wounded “Inner
Children,” we run the risks of:
Some of the steps taking towards healing the wounded “Inner Child.”
In
order to help healing our wounded “Inner Children,” we need to:
·
Seek
effective counseling.
·
Learn to
speak up our minds.
·
Learn more
about our childhood issues in order to come up with appropriate affirmations for
ourselves.
Here
are some affirmations that we can use for our “Inner Children”:
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“It is OK to share with others about my personal accomplishments.”
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“It is OK to accept compliments from others.”
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“It is OK to be honest with my feelings.”
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“It is OK to make mistakes, laugh at myself and move on.”
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“It is OK to be ‘selfish’ and do things that I really want to
do.”
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“It is OK to let others serve me.”
We
can tell our “Inner Children” that:
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“You can argue or disagree with Mom and Dad and still be a good
child.”
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“I accept and love you just the way you are!”
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“I am so proud of you no matter what you do!”
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“You can trust that I am always there for you!”
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“I am sorry for making you behave like a grown-up when you were still a
child.”
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“From now on, we will have a lot of fun together.”
Discover our hidden negative beliefs in all life circumstances.
Here
are some of our typical negative beliefs:
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I am not lovable
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I am a bad person
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I am too weak to protect myself
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I am a failure
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I cannot trust anyone
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I am not trustworthy
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I deserve to die
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I am permanently damaged