The wounded “Inner Child.”

Each childhood wound that we suffer, almost if not always, created a wounded “Inner Child.”

Definition of the wounded “Inner Child.”

The wounded “Inner Child” is the egocentric, severed parts of me that was hurt, terrified, vulnerable and neglected and never allowed to express itself.

Every time something happened to us, we split of energetically and disconnected from the rest of ourselves. The severed part of us might contains certain qualities like frankness, innocent, fearless, fun loving, etc. that after this incident, we feel incomplete and miss these qualities in ourselves and end up spending our lives searching for these qualities from outside of us.

How the wounded “Inner Children” come into our life.

The wounded “Inner Children” came into our life because we were:

For example:   - It is quite prestigious to be a doctor, a lawyer or an engineer.

- Real men don’t cry.

- Showing emotion is a sign of weakness.

- Assertiveness is not a good quality.

Signs of the existence of the wounded “Inner Child”.

Risks of suppressing the wounded “Inner Child.”

When we suppress our wounded “Inner Children,” we run the risks of:

Some of the steps taking towards healing the wounded “Inner Child.”

In order to help healing our wounded “Inner Children,” we need to:

·        Seek effective counseling.

·        Learn to speak up our minds.

·        Learn more about our childhood issues in order to come up with appropriate affirmations for ourselves.

-         “It is OK to share with others about my personal accomplishments.”

-         “It is OK to accept compliments from others.”

-         “It is OK to be honest with my feelings.”

-         “It is OK to make mistakes, laugh at myself and move on.”

-         “It is OK to be ‘selfish’ and do things that I really want to do.”

-         “It is OK to let others serve me.”

We can tell our “Inner Children” that:

-         “You can argue or disagree with Mom and Dad and still be a good child.”

-         “I accept and love you just the way you are!”

-         “I am so proud of you no matter what you do!”

-         “You can trust that I am always there for you!”

-         “I am sorry for making you behave like a grown-up when you were still a child.”

-         “From now on, we will have a lot of fun together.”

Here are some of our typical negative beliefs:

-         I am not lovable

-         I am a bad person

-         I am too weak to protect myself

-         I am a failure

-         I cannot trust anyone

-         I am not trustworthy

-         I deserve to die

-         I am permanently damaged

Benefits of healing the wounded “Inner Child”

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